Richard Morgan
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show details December 27, 2008 at 11:57 PM
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Nut cake!
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LOL... That's all this "individual" has to say! He put everything in writing and in front of witnesses. Can't wait to show it all to the court. What an Idiot. Now I know why he's known as "Richard the Chicken-Hearted!" Hahahahahah
Monday, December 29, 2008
Court Cases against Richard Morgan
Check "Case Search" at jp.pima.gov for the many court cases filed against Richard Morgan. It's incredible. It's surprising what people can try to hide by moving to a third world country. But things have a way of catching up with them, don't they? His company, Adventures in Education, is registered in Arizona. He lists himself on FaceBook as: Richard Morgan Szybist (Central Jersey, NJ). It appears a check needs to be done there, as well.
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[Pima County Consolidated Justice Court Home Page]
Case Search: http://webcom.jp.pima.gov/casesearch/casesearch.aspx
Search the Court Docket by entering either a Name [Morgan, Richard], Case Number, or Citation Number
Every effort has been made to ensure that the information provided within this site is correct. The information is provided as a public service and Pima County Consolidated Justice Courts assumes no liability for any inaccuracies that it may contain. By using this site, you agree to these terms and conditions. If you encounter an error or something isn't functioning correctly, please e-mail us and let us know.
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Search Results For Civil Docket with Persons' Last Name:
Morgan, Richard
Case Number Defendant Party Type Date Served Date Answered Next Court Date Termination Date Termination Type
CV03015585C-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 08/15/2003 08/22/2003 COURT
CV05022315A-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Plaintiff 10/14/2005 10/14/2005 DISM W/OP
CV06005907A-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Plaintiff 03/20/2006 COURT
CV06012636B-SC MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 06/05/2006 11/17/2008 ADMIN
CV06028779C-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 11/27/2006 12/04/2006 DISM W/OP
CV07033835B-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 12/15/2007 12/21/2007 COURT
CV07511891C-SC MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 01/16/2008 ADMIN
CV89011583B-RB MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 06/30/1989 10/16/1989 DEFAULT
CV90005034B-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 03/28/1990 DISM WP
CV92001121B-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 01/24/1992 01/30/1992 COURT
CV93010733B-RB MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 07/29/1993 10/21/1993 DEFAULT
CV93012683B-RA MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 09/03/1993 11/30/1993 DEFAULT
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One example:
Proceedings Case Plaintiff Defendant Item Date REF Proceeding_Entry
CV89011583 ITT FINANCIAL SRVS. MORGAN, RICHARD 1 01 Apr 1991 RB APPLICATION FOR WRIT OF GARNISHMENT ON EARNINGS FILED BY ROBERT J. SWEENEY, ATTY. FOR PLAINTIFF.
CV89011583B ITT FINANCIAL SRVS. MORGAN, RICHARD 2 17 Apr 1991 RB GARN. ANSWER FILED-EARNINGS AVAILABLE.
There are also cases as late as 2007 and 2008 (and of course, mine):
• Proceedings Case Plaintiff Defendant Item Date REF Proceeding_Entry
CV07511891 STUDER, DAVID N MORGAN, RICHARD 0 11 Feb 2007 SC ELECTRONIC COMPLAIN FILED...
• CV03015585A HOWARD, CHARLES MORGAN, RICHARD 1 10 Dec 2008 FD RC# 68198 ...
(see more above)
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[Pima County Consolidated Justice Court Home Page]
Case Search: http://webcom.jp.pima.gov/casesearch/casesearch.aspx
Search the Court Docket by entering either a Name [Morgan, Richard], Case Number, or Citation Number
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Search Results For Civil Docket with Persons' Last Name:
Morgan, Richard
Case Number Defendant Party Type Date Served Date Answered Next Court Date Termination Date Termination Type
CV03015585C-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 08/15/2003 08/22/2003 COURT
CV05022315A-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Plaintiff 10/14/2005 10/14/2005 DISM W/OP
CV06005907A-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Plaintiff 03/20/2006 COURT
CV06012636B-SC MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 06/05/2006 11/17/2008 ADMIN
CV06028779C-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 11/27/2006 12/04/2006 DISM W/OP
CV07033835B-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 12/15/2007 12/21/2007 COURT
CV07511891C-SC MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 01/16/2008 ADMIN
CV89011583B-RB MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 06/30/1989 10/16/1989 DEFAULT
CV90005034B-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 03/28/1990 DISM WP
CV92001121B-FD MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 01/24/1992 01/30/1992 COURT
CV93010733B-RB MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 07/29/1993 10/21/1993 DEFAULT
CV93012683B-RA MORGAN, RICHARD Defendant 09/03/1993 11/30/1993 DEFAULT
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One example:
Proceedings Case Plaintiff Defendant Item Date REF Proceeding_Entry
CV89011583 ITT FINANCIAL SRVS. MORGAN, RICHARD 1 01 Apr 1991 RB APPLICATION FOR WRIT OF GARNISHMENT ON EARNINGS FILED BY ROBERT J. SWEENEY, ATTY. FOR PLAINTIFF.
CV89011583B ITT FINANCIAL SRVS. MORGAN, RICHARD 2 17 Apr 1991 RB GARN. ANSWER FILED-EARNINGS AVAILABLE.
There are also cases as late as 2007 and 2008 (and of course, mine):
• Proceedings Case Plaintiff Defendant Item Date REF Proceeding_Entry
CV07511891 STUDER, DAVID N MORGAN, RICHARD 0 11 Feb 2007 SC ELECTRONIC COMPLAIN FILED...
• CV03015585A HOWARD, CHARLES MORGAN, RICHARD 1 10 Dec 2008 FD RC# 68198 ...
(see more above)
Stalker blocked on FaceBook
FaceBook: Catherine just blocked someone who was harassing her... Ding Dong the Witch is Dead (the stalker, that is) Yayyy! Now, on to the rest of the world that he inhabits. I shall be free!
Richard Morgan, Stop Stalking and Harassing Me
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1091885151#/profile.php?id=1091885151&ref=ts
Catherine Todd wrote on FaceBook, when a friend request was made by Duncan Aitken:
"Thanks for the friend add, Duncan... I'm not sure if we ever met in person (perhaps at Sid's one time) but I hope to see you soon when I return to Pana. Yours, Catherine Todd"
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Then Richard Morgan wrote on FaceBook:
"Richard Morgan Szybist wrote at 7:37am
What's happening with the plans we've discussed. Milestone was set for 1 Dec. Still planning a meeting for then ? p.s., I recommend you remove C Todd as a friend. Will be happy to discuss it with you."
This is a hotel owner, who still owes me money and has refused to return my refund. It's unbelievable. Here is my response (I also wrote to FaceBook and have been advised to go to the police which I will also do). How can this be happening, from "grown ups," no less? Morgan is around 63 years old and carrying on like he is still in highschool. I hope to put an end to this once and for all.
My response to Duncan:
"Dear Duncan, I have reported Richard Morgan's comment about me to FaceBook, as it violates community rules. This is a place for "friends," not a place to engage in personal vendettas. I would appreciate it if you would remove that portion of his message to you that refers to me. Mr. Morgan has refused to deal with his problems through the proper channels. FaceBook is definitely not the place for it."
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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1091885151#/s.php?k=100000080&id=1622918807&sid=e60fdfef01263b0f8240054b5c7a3063
Then I wrote directly to Richard Morgan, re: comment made about me on FaceBook at Duncan Aiken's site:
"You will have to deal with your problems through the proper channels, instead of creating a personal vendetta against me and displaying it here on FaceBook. Your anger and enmity does not belong on FaceBook or on me. I am sure you have enough enemies already without trying to add me to your list.
Travelocity.com is a place where people write about their experiences staying at hotels, and I wrote about my awful experience at yours. That is a "proper channel." What do you expect as a business owner? You can't get away with mistreating people and expect them to keep quiet about it, especially in this digital age. People are not your personal punching bags. You can shout at your employees, but you can't shout at hotel guests, nor can you steal from them. The truth always comes out, as it will in this case. You can be sure of that.
Reputation is important, and going after me (and everyone else who gave you a bad review) is not going to help you or your business succeed. Treating your hotel guests well would help you and your business, but apparently losing money and most of your clientele isn't enough for you to learn that lesson yet.
FaceBook is for making friends, not enemies. Apparently you do not know the difference. I have reported this, your previous threats, and other violations of yours and will continue to do so until you cease and desist. I am not afraid of you and will go to the police for protection and a restraining order if necessary. Stop stalking and harassing me.
Catherine Todd wrote on FaceBook, when a friend request was made by Duncan Aitken:
"Thanks for the friend add, Duncan... I'm not sure if we ever met in person (perhaps at Sid's one time) but I hope to see you soon when I return to Pana. Yours, Catherine Todd"
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Then Richard Morgan wrote on FaceBook:
"Richard Morgan Szybist wrote at 7:37am
What's happening with the plans we've discussed. Milestone was set for 1 Dec. Still planning a meeting for then ? p.s., I recommend you remove C Todd as a friend. Will be happy to discuss it with you."
This is a hotel owner, who still owes me money and has refused to return my refund. It's unbelievable. Here is my response (I also wrote to FaceBook and have been advised to go to the police which I will also do). How can this be happening, from "grown ups," no less? Morgan is around 63 years old and carrying on like he is still in highschool. I hope to put an end to this once and for all.
My response to Duncan:
"Dear Duncan, I have reported Richard Morgan's comment about me to FaceBook, as it violates community rules. This is a place for "friends," not a place to engage in personal vendettas. I would appreciate it if you would remove that portion of his message to you that refers to me. Mr. Morgan has refused to deal with his problems through the proper channels. FaceBook is definitely not the place for it."
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http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1091885151#/s.php?k=100000080&id=1622918807&sid=e60fdfef01263b0f8240054b5c7a3063
Then I wrote directly to Richard Morgan, re: comment made about me on FaceBook at Duncan Aiken's site:
"You will have to deal with your problems through the proper channels, instead of creating a personal vendetta against me and displaying it here on FaceBook. Your anger and enmity does not belong on FaceBook or on me. I am sure you have enough enemies already without trying to add me to your list.
Travelocity.com is a place where people write about their experiences staying at hotels, and I wrote about my awful experience at yours. That is a "proper channel." What do you expect as a business owner? You can't get away with mistreating people and expect them to keep quiet about it, especially in this digital age. People are not your personal punching bags. You can shout at your employees, but you can't shout at hotel guests, nor can you steal from them. The truth always comes out, as it will in this case. You can be sure of that.
Reputation is important, and going after me (and everyone else who gave you a bad review) is not going to help you or your business succeed. Treating your hotel guests well would help you and your business, but apparently losing money and most of your clientele isn't enough for you to learn that lesson yet.
FaceBook is for making friends, not enemies. Apparently you do not know the difference. I have reported this, your previous threats, and other violations of yours and will continue to do so until you cease and desist. I am not afraid of you and will go to the police for protection and a restraining order if necessary. Stop stalking and harassing me.
Report Abuse To FaceBook
Found on another website regarding rules for comments:
"Comments must be directly related to the blog entry. Comments with offensive language will be deleted. Your e-mail address won't be displayed."
Perhaps FaceBook needs to add something like this.
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What are Facebook’s Time Requirements for Complaint Handling?
Facebook has agreed to handle complaints and reports of abuse within the following time frames:
* 1. Within 24 hours of receiving a report of abuse regarding nudity, pornography, harassment or unwelcome contact via the “Report” hyperlinks on Facebook.com web pages, Facebook shall use best efforts to commence addressing the report of abuse.
* 2. Within 24 hours of receiving a complaint or report of abuse regarding nudity, pornography, harassment or unwelcome contact via an independent email from a Facebook user or a Facebook user's parent or guardian to Facebook at abuse@facebook.com, Facebook shall respond to the complainant or the complainant's parent or guardian and shall commence addressing the complaint or report of abuse.
* 3. Within 72 hours of receiving a complaint or report of abuse regarding nudity, pornography, harassment or unwelcome contact via an independent email from a Facebook user or a Facebook user's parent or guardian to abuse@facebook.com, Facebook shall report to the complainant of the steps Facebook has taken to address the complaint or report of abuse.
"Comments must be directly related to the blog entry. Comments with offensive language will be deleted. Your e-mail address won't be displayed."
Perhaps FaceBook needs to add something like this.
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What are Facebook’s Time Requirements for Complaint Handling?
Facebook has agreed to handle complaints and reports of abuse within the following time frames:
* 1. Within 24 hours of receiving a report of abuse regarding nudity, pornography, harassment or unwelcome contact via the “Report” hyperlinks on Facebook.com web pages, Facebook shall use best efforts to commence addressing the report of abuse.
* 2. Within 24 hours of receiving a complaint or report of abuse regarding nudity, pornography, harassment or unwelcome contact via an independent email from a Facebook user or a Facebook user's parent or guardian to Facebook at abuse@facebook.com, Facebook shall respond to the complainant or the complainant's parent or guardian and shall commence addressing the complaint or report of abuse.
* 3. Within 72 hours of receiving a complaint or report of abuse regarding nudity, pornography, harassment or unwelcome contact via an independent email from a Facebook user or a Facebook user's parent or guardian to abuse@facebook.com, Facebook shall report to the complainant of the steps Facebook has taken to address the complaint or report of abuse.
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
DON'T FEED THE BULLY
"In a nutshell: Don't Feed the Bully is an important self-help book for pre-teens that is cleverly disguised as a hilarious, fictional novel. Don't Feed the Bully provides practical advice to children on the extremely important topic of bullying. Yet it delivers that advice in a humorous, captivating plot that makes putting the book down nearly impossible. I urge educators to adopt this as required reading for your middle-school children. Doing so would be a major step forward in tackling the serious problem of bullying, which continues to lead to escalating violence in our schools.” Barnes and Noble.com reviewer, 5/12/2007 *****
“Don’t Feed the Bully' has been critically acclaimed for helping kids become aware of bullying behavior and solve situations before they become violent. It has won the Top Choice Award for best teen novel from Flamingnet.com." Amie Slevin, Noblesville Ledger
The new novel by Brad Tassell that can actually help with your bullying situation.
Click here to order this book right now from Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or an Ebook.
Download Don't Feed the Bully and read it for $2.00!
NEW! Edutopia Magazine article. I was interviewed along with Trudy Ludwig, My Secret Bully, and other experts. Bullies, Begone! Safe Schools Ambassadors Help Keep the Peace on Campus. Students can effectively discourage bad behavior among their peers. by Annemarie Mannion
Don't Feed The Bully wins the TOP CHOICE AWARD from flamingnet.com for best reviewed teen novel. See the award, then buy it! Click here
You must click here for the letters from sixth grade students at Discover Middle School. They all read the book! This is great stuff and every educator and parent should read the brilliance of those young people, and my responses.
BRAND NEW! Email of the day! Click here and read an intelligent email from educators who are using the book and getting great results. Then come back here and do everything else.
Demo videos are available of Brad's Bully Presentation for schools. It's fun! Click here.
Get the new audio book version of Don't Feed the Bully now for less than half the cost it will be when it comes out at ITunes and other Digital outlets. Two CD's. Click here!
Chapter summary PDF for helping younger grades reading the book click here!
NEW! GREAT PARENT/TEACHER TIPS to help your child be a positive bystander against bullying! Click!
All educators please read: Many schools, especially 5-7 (NOW 4 too!) grade classrooms are adding Don't Feed the Bully to their classroom reading. Because as one teacher recently put it, "It's almost impossible to find a book the boys will read, and most of them finished Don't Feed the Bully." Many of these schools are making Don't Feed the Bully their first book of the year that the class reads together because it has the best chance of grabbing the interest and imagination of boys in the middle and upper elementary grades. Please, see if it doesn't work for you. 30 copies of this book can be purchased by any school for very little money but bring huge dividends when year after year a new group loves reading it and learns great lessons about bullying and literature. Discovery Middle School had the entire 6th grade read the book and here is why:
"Prior to Tassell's visit, every sixth-grader at the school read "Don't Feed the Bully."
Kathy Burnette, media specialist at Discovery, explained the middle school's anti-bullying committee had searched for a way to integrate anti-bullying-related fiction into the students' studies as a way to open a dialogue with them about bullying." Kim Kilbride, South Bend Tribune
"Mr. Tassell's book is simple and direct. The students appreciate that." Kathy Burnette, Media Specialist.
"I totally and fully supported your book (read it last June and immediately knew it would be a hit with our kids... as I used to teach self-contained 6th grade for
about ten years) and was so excited we could get the REAL person here for our kids!! Thanks again!"
Sheryll Harper, Principal
Discovery Middle School
National Blue Ribbon School
Now read this quote from a letter I got from one of the sixth graders.
"I love your book, I usually do not like reading, but yours caught my attention..." Tara, Sixth grade student Discover Middle School
Don't Feed the Bully is a fictional detective story aimed at boys 10-14, although, anyone who can read will love this funny and meaningful story. Hannibal Greatneck III, detective, sixth grade student, or Handy to his friends, walks into William B. Travis elementary and finds a cage in the middle of the classroom. The school has dealt with its bully problem by handing over all the power to another bully. Handy must find the clues, outwit the villains, and return control of William B. Travis back to the students and faculty. The story is a funny one with hilarious and serious undertones, but with great purpose:
1. To get boys 10-14 to love reading by putting a book into their hands that is funny for them, plus has great lessons that they can easily understand and apply.
2. A comforting ally in their own struggle with bullying. They can see others have dealt with the problems and realities they are dealing with everyday from their fear of confrontation to the ignorance and apathy of most teachers and staff.
3. To give them a few steps to master that will help quell the bully tide. Plus, more in-depth help if they and their school system wants to truly help the cause of bullying.
Brad Tassell
"Making safety and ethics fun is a real challenge. "Don't Feed the Bully"
takes what all kids (and most adults) need to know and meets that challenge
head on. It's funny, fun and educational. I can't ask for more."
Parry Aftab
Executive Director,
WiredSafety.org (home of stopcyberbullying.org)
email dontfeedthebully.com
at llessat@aol.com today!
Starfield Technologies, Inc.
“Don’t Feed the Bully' has been critically acclaimed for helping kids become aware of bullying behavior and solve situations before they become violent. It has won the Top Choice Award for best teen novel from Flamingnet.com." Amie Slevin, Noblesville Ledger
The new novel by Brad Tassell that can actually help with your bullying situation.
Click here to order this book right now from Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or an Ebook.
Download Don't Feed the Bully and read it for $2.00!
NEW! Edutopia Magazine article. I was interviewed along with Trudy Ludwig, My Secret Bully, and other experts. Bullies, Begone! Safe Schools Ambassadors Help Keep the Peace on Campus. Students can effectively discourage bad behavior among their peers. by Annemarie Mannion
Don't Feed The Bully wins the TOP CHOICE AWARD from flamingnet.com for best reviewed teen novel. See the award, then buy it! Click here
You must click here for the letters from sixth grade students at Discover Middle School. They all read the book! This is great stuff and every educator and parent should read the brilliance of those young people, and my responses.
BRAND NEW! Email of the day! Click here and read an intelligent email from educators who are using the book and getting great results. Then come back here and do everything else.
Demo videos are available of Brad's Bully Presentation for schools. It's fun! Click here.
Get the new audio book version of Don't Feed the Bully now for less than half the cost it will be when it comes out at ITunes and other Digital outlets. Two CD's. Click here!
Chapter summary PDF for helping younger grades reading the book click here!
NEW! GREAT PARENT/TEACHER TIPS to help your child be a positive bystander against bullying! Click!
All educators please read: Many schools, especially 5-7 (NOW 4 too!) grade classrooms are adding Don't Feed the Bully to their classroom reading. Because as one teacher recently put it, "It's almost impossible to find a book the boys will read, and most of them finished Don't Feed the Bully." Many of these schools are making Don't Feed the Bully their first book of the year that the class reads together because it has the best chance of grabbing the interest and imagination of boys in the middle and upper elementary grades. Please, see if it doesn't work for you. 30 copies of this book can be purchased by any school for very little money but bring huge dividends when year after year a new group loves reading it and learns great lessons about bullying and literature. Discovery Middle School had the entire 6th grade read the book and here is why:
"Prior to Tassell's visit, every sixth-grader at the school read "Don't Feed the Bully."
Kathy Burnette, media specialist at Discovery, explained the middle school's anti-bullying committee had searched for a way to integrate anti-bullying-related fiction into the students' studies as a way to open a dialogue with them about bullying." Kim Kilbride, South Bend Tribune
"Mr. Tassell's book is simple and direct. The students appreciate that." Kathy Burnette, Media Specialist.
"I totally and fully supported your book (read it last June and immediately knew it would be a hit with our kids... as I used to teach self-contained 6th grade for
about ten years) and was so excited we could get the REAL person here for our kids!! Thanks again!"
Sheryll Harper, Principal
Discovery Middle School
National Blue Ribbon School
Now read this quote from a letter I got from one of the sixth graders.
"I love your book, I usually do not like reading, but yours caught my attention..." Tara, Sixth grade student Discover Middle School
Don't Feed the Bully is a fictional detective story aimed at boys 10-14, although, anyone who can read will love this funny and meaningful story. Hannibal Greatneck III, detective, sixth grade student, or Handy to his friends, walks into William B. Travis elementary and finds a cage in the middle of the classroom. The school has dealt with its bully problem by handing over all the power to another bully. Handy must find the clues, outwit the villains, and return control of William B. Travis back to the students and faculty. The story is a funny one with hilarious and serious undertones, but with great purpose:
1. To get boys 10-14 to love reading by putting a book into their hands that is funny for them, plus has great lessons that they can easily understand and apply.
2. A comforting ally in their own struggle with bullying. They can see others have dealt with the problems and realities they are dealing with everyday from their fear of confrontation to the ignorance and apathy of most teachers and staff.
3. To give them a few steps to master that will help quell the bully tide. Plus, more in-depth help if they and their school system wants to truly help the cause of bullying.
Brad Tassell
"Making safety and ethics fun is a real challenge. "Don't Feed the Bully"
takes what all kids (and most adults) need to know and meets that challenge
head on. It's funny, fun and educational. I can't ask for more."
Parry Aftab
Executive Director,
WiredSafety.org (home of stopcyberbullying.org)
email dontfeedthebully.com
at llessat@aol.com today!
Starfield Technologies, Inc.
Facebook Notification of Harassment by Richard Morgan Szybist
Gmail Catherine S. Todd
Facebook Notification of Harassment by Richard Morgan Szybist
1 message
Catherine S. Todd Wed, Dec 3, 2008 at 9:58 AM
Draft To: abuse@facebook.com
Cc: Richard Morgan
To: Facebook Safety & Abuse,
I would like to file a complaint for the offensive and harassing behavior by Richard Morgan Szybist, a member of FaceBook, who owns a hotel, Posada Los Encuentros, in Panajachel Guatemala.
He has been threatening, stalking and harassing me since June 2008 when I and other guests at the hotel gave his hotel a negative review on Travelocity.com. I also requested a partial refund after having to leave due to dirty and dangerous conditions, when parts of the hotel were under construction without ensuring proper safety for incoming and outgoing guests. Other guests also left and "did not recommend returning."
He began harassing me via Travelocity's website until I notified Travelocity of the problem, who removed his personal attacks from their website. He has targeted me since then, even when I went to meditation over this problem. He stated I was "in big trouble now" and he was "going to get me." He attempted to make good on his threats until I was forced to leave the area. I will be returning, however, at which time I will request police protection and a restraining order against him.
Now I see that he begins his attacks on FaceBook.com.
Please take appropriate action to protect myself and all members of FaceBook from harassment and other objectionable behavior to ensure that FaceBook remains the positive community environment it is meant to be. Your rules state, in part:
"Facebook will use best efforts to remove the offending content or conduct and to warn or, as appropriate, to bar from the site those transmitting such content or engaging in such conduct..."
Below is the offensive posting: ("C. Todd" refers to myself, Catherine Todd). This was written by Richard Morgan Szybist to Duncan Aitken, after Duncan added me as a "friend" on FaceBook.
http://www.facebook.com/inbox/readmessage.php?t=1005045341336#/profile.php?id=1091885151
Richard Morgan Szybist wrote on Duncan Aitken's wall at 8:37am Nov. 23, 2008
"What's happening with the plans we've discussed. Milestone was set for 1 Dec. Still planning a meeting for then ? p.s., I recommend you remove C Todd as a friend. Will be happy to discuss it with you."
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Your Safety rules clearly state: http://www.facebook.com/safety/
"Despite Facebook's safety and privacy controls, Facebook cannot guarantee that its site is entirely free of illegal, offensive, pornographic or otherwise inappropriate material, or that its members will not encounter inappropriate or illegal conduct from other members. Consequently, you may encounter such content and conduct. You can help Facebook by notifying us of any nudity or pornography, or harassment or unwelcome contact by clicking on the "Report" link located on pages throughout the site. Where confidential complaints are made through this site reporting tool, Facebook will use best efforts to remove the offending content or conduct and to warn or, as appropriate, to bar from the site those transmitting such content or engaging in such conduct within 24 hours of receiving your complaint. Where complaints about nudity or pornography, or harassment or unwelcome contact are made by independent email to abuse@facebook.com, Facebook will acknowledge receipt of your complaint and begin addressing your complaint within 24 hours of receipt. Facebook will report back to you within 72 hours of receiving your email complaint to inform you of the steps Facebook has taken to address the complaint.
Click here to contact the Independent Safety and Security Examiner (ISSE) regarding Facebook's complaint handling procedures. Please note that if you have not previously made a complaint to Facebook you should not use this link. Facebook is solely responsible for complaint handling, and you should address all complaints or reports of abuse directly to Facebook using the procedures described on this page.
We need all users to report suspicious people and inappropriate content they encounter on Facebook."
I am reporting this abusive and inappropriate content by Richard Morgan Szybist. Please help resolve this matter and advise me of what other steps I can take to ensure my personal and physical safety and freedom from illegal, unwelcome, threatening, inappropriate behavior by him, including bullying, stalking, harassment and attacks. I am in the process of filing complaints with the police and other governing agencies to end this pattern of abusive behavior on his part.
In the meantime, I would like FaceBook to remain the place for "friends" to meet, including myself, as it is intended to be. If requested, I will provide extensive documentation of other incidents that have taken place.
Sincerely, Catherine Todd
3007 Bent Tree Dr. Oxford NC 27565 USA, 919.693.0853
and Panajachel, Guatemala
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http://www.facebook.com/safety/
Help CenterGetting StartedSafety
Facebook Safety
Facebook aspires to be an environment where people can interact safely with their friends and the people around them. We have implemented many safety and privacy controls on Facebook as part of our goal to enable people to share their information with only the people they want to see it. And we are constantly improving our systems for identifying and removing inappropriate content and people from the site.
Children under 13 years old are not permitted access to Facebook. In addition, parents of children 13 years and older should consider whether their child should be supervised during the child's use of the Facebook site.
Despite Facebook's safety and privacy controls, Facebook cannot guarantee that its site is entirely free of illegal, offensive, pornographic or otherwise inappropriate material, or that its members will not encounter inappropriate or illegal conduct from other members. Consequently, you may encounter such content and conduct. You can help Facebook by notifying us of any nudity or pornography, or harassment or unwelcome contact by clicking on the "Report" link located on pages throughout the site. Where confidential complaints are made through this site reporting tool, Facebook will use best efforts to remove the offending content or conduct and to warn or, as appropriate, to bar from the site those transmitting such content or engaging in such conduct within 24 hours of receiving your complaint. Where complaints about nudity or pornography, or harassment or unwelcome contact are made by independent email to abuse@facebook.com, Facebook will acknowledge receipt of your complaint and begin addressing your complaint within 24 hours of receipt. Facebook will report back to you within 72 hours of receiving your email complaint to inform you of the steps Facebook has taken to address the complaint.
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Facebook Notification of Harassment by Richard Morgan Szybist
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Catherine S. Todd
Draft To: abuse@facebook.com
Cc: Richard Morgan
To: Facebook Safety & Abuse,
I would like to file a complaint for the offensive and harassing behavior by Richard Morgan Szybist, a member of FaceBook, who owns a hotel, Posada Los Encuentros, in Panajachel Guatemala.
He has been threatening, stalking and harassing me since June 2008 when I and other guests at the hotel gave his hotel a negative review on Travelocity.com. I also requested a partial refund after having to leave due to dirty and dangerous conditions, when parts of the hotel were under construction without ensuring proper safety for incoming and outgoing guests. Other guests also left and "did not recommend returning."
He began harassing me via Travelocity's website until I notified Travelocity of the problem, who removed his personal attacks from their website. He has targeted me since then, even when I went to meditation over this problem. He stated I was "in big trouble now" and he was "going to get me." He attempted to make good on his threats until I was forced to leave the area. I will be returning, however, at which time I will request police protection and a restraining order against him.
Now I see that he begins his attacks on FaceBook.com.
Please take appropriate action to protect myself and all members of FaceBook from harassment and other objectionable behavior to ensure that FaceBook remains the positive community environment it is meant to be. Your rules state, in part:
"Facebook will use best efforts to remove the offending content or conduct and to warn or, as appropriate, to bar from the site those transmitting such content or engaging in such conduct..."
Below is the offensive posting: ("C. Todd" refers to myself, Catherine Todd). This was written by Richard Morgan Szybist to Duncan Aitken, after Duncan added me as a "friend" on FaceBook.
http://www.facebook.com/inbox/readmessage.php?t=1005045341336#/profile.php?id=1091885151
Richard Morgan Szybist wrote on Duncan Aitken's wall at 8:37am Nov. 23, 2008
"What's happening with the plans we've discussed. Milestone was set for 1 Dec. Still planning a meeting for then ? p.s., I recommend you remove C Todd as a friend. Will be happy to discuss it with you."
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We need all users to report suspicious people and inappropriate content they encounter on Facebook."
I am reporting this abusive and inappropriate content by Richard Morgan Szybist. Please help resolve this matter and advise me of what other steps I can take to ensure my personal and physical safety and freedom from illegal, unwelcome, threatening, inappropriate behavior by him, including bullying, stalking, harassment and attacks. I am in the process of filing complaints with the police and other governing agencies to end this pattern of abusive behavior on his part.
In the meantime, I would like FaceBook to remain the place for "friends" to meet, including myself, as it is intended to be. If requested, I will provide extensive documentation of other incidents that have taken place.
Sincerely, Catherine Todd
3007 Bent Tree Dr. Oxford NC 27565 USA, 919.693.0853
and Panajachel, Guatemala
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Tuesday, December 2, 2008
"Fixing Hell" no easy trick
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Col. Larry James, author of
"Fixing Hell: An Army Psychologist Confronts Abu Ghraib."
He graduated from University of Dubuque and got another degree from Loras College.
Saturday, November 29, 2008
'Fixing Hell' no easy trick
UD grad recalls the horrors that greeted him at Abu Ghraib prison
By MARY NEVANS-PEDERSON TH staff writer
Abu Ghraib was a hellhole beyond anything Col. Larry C. James had ever seen when he landed at the U.S. military prison in Iraq in June 2004, only weeks after the now-infamous images of prisoner abuse were broadcast to the world.
"Abu Ghraib was a wasteland ... with garbage and raw sewage everywhere you looked. This was a terrible place to be, for anyone," James wrote in his new book, "Fixing Hell: An Army Psychologist Confronts Abu Ghraib."
James, a University of Dubuque graduate now retired from the U.S. Army, was sent to "save this rapidly sinking ship," as he put it. As a top Army psychologist, he had been assigned to Guantanamo Bay, Cuba, the year before to institute policies that would prevent prisoner abuse at that detention facility and at all military prisons.
James' personal narrative is both a graphic account of the emotional and psychological horrors of war and an unflinching examination of U.S. policies toward prisoners-of-war (now often viewed as terrorists), torture and the mental disorders that plague many combatants...
"I was coming to understand that America was at war with an enemy like no other we have ever faced. This new enemy had as its goal the total destruction of all 'nonbelievers,'" said James, 52, who at one point in his deployment to Abu Ghraib had a $25,000 bounty on his head. These terrorists are so illogical and rigid that James suggests they are mentally ill. (more)
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Bullying in the family
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Constant criticism, nit-picking, humiliation, undermining, denial, refusal to value, manipulation? Sounds like bullying
Bullying in the family
Dealing with a serial bully, psychopath or sociopath in the family
Issues: bullying relations, family bullying, abusive partners, abusive relationships, power, control, domination, subjugation, manipulation, intimidation, narcissism, attention seeking, arrogance, fear, shame, embarrassment, guilt, denial
Whilst the focus of Bully OnLine is bullying in the workplace, the serial bully at work is a serial bully at home and in the community. All serial bullies have been through school and all have families and neighbours. An increasing number of enquiries come from people dealing with family bullying.
The violence committed by a serial bully is almost entirely psychological, for psychological violence leaves no scars and no physical evidence. Most commonly the violence takes the form of verbal abuse and emotional abuse including trivial nit-picking criticism, constant fault-finding combined with a simultaneous refusal to recognise, value, acknowledge and praise. Manipulation, isolation and exclusion are other favourite tactics, as is feigning victimhood or persecution, especially when held accountable.
The objectives of serial bullies are Power, Control, Domination and Subjugation. These are achieved by a number of means including disempowerment, the stimulation of excessive levels of fear, shame, embarrassment and guilt, manipulation (especially of emotions and perceptions), ritual humiliation and constant denial. When you live with someone who is constantly denying what they said or did a day ago, or an hour ago, or even a minute ago, it drives you crazy. When the symptoms of injury to health start to become apparent, the bully will tell others you have a "mental health problem". You may be mad, but this is not mad insane, this is mad angry. (more)
Constant criticism, nit-picking, humiliation, undermining, denial, refusal to value, manipulation? Sounds like bullying
Bullying in the family
Dealing with a serial bully, psychopath or sociopath in the family
Issues: bullying relations, family bullying, abusive partners, abusive relationships, power, control, domination, subjugation, manipulation, intimidation, narcissism, attention seeking, arrogance, fear, shame, embarrassment, guilt, denial
Whilst the focus of Bully OnLine is bullying in the workplace, the serial bully at work is a serial bully at home and in the community. All serial bullies have been through school and all have families and neighbours. An increasing number of enquiries come from people dealing with family bullying.
The violence committed by a serial bully is almost entirely psychological, for psychological violence leaves no scars and no physical evidence. Most commonly the violence takes the form of verbal abuse and emotional abuse including trivial nit-picking criticism, constant fault-finding combined with a simultaneous refusal to recognise, value, acknowledge and praise. Manipulation, isolation and exclusion are other favourite tactics, as is feigning victimhood or persecution, especially when held accountable.
The objectives of serial bullies are Power, Control, Domination and Subjugation. These are achieved by a number of means including disempowerment, the stimulation of excessive levels of fear, shame, embarrassment and guilt, manipulation (especially of emotions and perceptions), ritual humiliation and constant denial. When you live with someone who is constantly denying what they said or did a day ago, or an hour ago, or even a minute ago, it drives you crazy. When the symptoms of injury to health start to become apparent, the bully will tell others you have a "mental health problem". You may be mad, but this is not mad insane, this is mad angry. (more)
Narcissists, NPD and the serial bully
narcisstic, personality, disorder, npd, charm, arrogance, arrogant, narcissism, narcissists, boast, boasting, egotist, egotists, charm, arrogance, constant criticism, nit-picking, no empathy, devalued, dismissed?
Read this: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissists, NPD and the serial bully
"One nice thing about egotists: they don't talk about other people." (Unknown)
On this page
Narcissistic Personality Disorder | DSM-IV Diagnostic Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Related personality disorders | Links to narcissism and narcissistic personality disoder sites
On another page
Attention seeking behaviour
Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP)
The serial bully
The serial bully displays behaviour congruent with many of the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Characterised by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity and self-importance, need for admiration, and lack of empathy, people with narcissistic personality disorder overestimate their abilities and inflate their accomplishments, often appearing boastful and pretentious, whilst correspondingly underestimating and devaluing the achievements and accomplishments of others.
Often the narcissist will fraudulently claim to have qualifications or experience or affiliations or associations which they don't have or aren't entitled to. Belief in superiority, inflating their self-esteem to match that of senior or important people with whom they associate or identify, insisting on having the "top" professionals or being affiliated with the "best" institutions, but criticising the same people who disappoint them are also common features of narcissistic personality disorder.
(more)
Read this: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissists, NPD and the serial bully
"One nice thing about egotists: they don't talk about other people." (Unknown)
On this page
Narcissistic Personality Disorder | DSM-IV Diagnostic Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Related personality disorders | Links to narcissism and narcissistic personality disoder sites
On another page
Attention seeking behaviour
Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP)
The serial bully
The serial bully displays behaviour congruent with many of the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Characterised by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity and self-importance, need for admiration, and lack of empathy, people with narcissistic personality disorder overestimate their abilities and inflate their accomplishments, often appearing boastful and pretentious, whilst correspondingly underestimating and devaluing the achievements and accomplishments of others.
Often the narcissist will fraudulently claim to have qualifications or experience or affiliations or associations which they don't have or aren't entitled to. Belief in superiority, inflating their self-esteem to match that of senior or important people with whom they associate or identify, insisting on having the "top" professionals or being affiliated with the "best" institutions, but criticising the same people who disappoint them are also common features of narcissistic personality disorder.
(more)
Narcissists, NPD and the serial bully
narcisstic, personality, disorder, npd, charm, arrogance, arrogant, narcissism, narcissists, boast, boasting, egotist, egotists
Charm, arrogance, constant criticism, nit-picking, no empathy, devalued, dismissed? Read this
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissists, NPD and the serial bully
"One nice thing about egotists: they don't talk about other people." (Unknown)
On this page
Narcissistic Personality Disorder | DSM-IV Diagnostic Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Related personality disorders | Links to narcissism and narcissistic personality disoder sites
On another page
Attention seeking behaviour
Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP)
The serial bully
The serial bully displays behaviour congruent with many of the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Characterised by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity and self-importance, need for admiration, and lack of empathy, people with narcissistic personality disorder overestimate their abilities and inflate their accomplishments, often appearing boastful and pretentious, whilst correspondingly underestimating and devaluing the achievements and accomplishments of others.
Often the narcissist will fraudulently claim to have qualifications or experience or affiliations or associations which they don't have or aren't entitled to. Belief in superiority, inflating their self-esteem to match that of senior or important people with whom they associate or identify, insisting on having the "top" professionals or being affiliated with the "best" institutions, but criticising the same people who disappoint them are also common features of narcissistic personality disorder.
Charm, arrogance, constant criticism, nit-picking, no empathy, devalued, dismissed? Read this
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissists, NPD and the serial bully
"One nice thing about egotists: they don't talk about other people." (Unknown)
On this page
Narcissistic Personality Disorder | DSM-IV Diagnostic Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Related personality disorders | Links to narcissism and narcissistic personality disoder sites
On another page
Attention seeking behaviour
Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP)
The serial bully
The serial bully displays behaviour congruent with many of the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Characterised by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity and self-importance, need for admiration, and lack of empathy, people with narcissistic personality disorder overestimate their abilities and inflate their accomplishments, often appearing boastful and pretentious, whilst correspondingly underestimating and devaluing the achievements and accomplishments of others.
Often the narcissist will fraudulently claim to have qualifications or experience or affiliations or associations which they don't have or aren't entitled to. Belief in superiority, inflating their self-esteem to match that of senior or important people with whom they associate or identify, insisting on having the "top" professionals or being affiliated with the "best" institutions, but criticising the same people who disappoint them are also common features of narcissistic personality disorder.
The Serial Bully
"All cruelty springs from weakness."
(Seneca, 4BC-AD65)
Constant criticism, nit-picking, no empathy, control freak, denial, charm, glib, compulsive liar, devious, manipulative? Read this
The serial bully
How to spot signs and symptoms of serial bullies, sociopaths and psychopaths, including the sociopathic behaviour of the industrial psychopath and the corporate psychopath
Types of serial bully: The Attention-Seeker, The Wannabe, The Guru and The Sociopath
"Most organisations have a serial bully. It never ceases to amaze me how one person's divisive, disordered, dysfunctional behaviour can permeate the entire organisation like a cancer."
Tim Field
"The truth is incontrovertible; malice may attack it, ignorance my deride it, but in the end, there it is."
Winston Churchill
"Lack of knowledge of, or unwillingness to recognise, or outright denial of the existence of the serial bully is the most common reason for an unsatisfactory outcome of a bullying case for both the employee and employer"
Tim Field
(more)
Keywords: serial, bully, profile, psychopath, psychopathic, sociopath, sociopathic, behaviour, behavior, signs, symptoms, corporate, workplace, industrial, manipulator, intimidate, attention, seeker, wannabe, guru, administrative, psychos, suits, snakes, work, workplace, bullying, antisocial
On this page
The can of worms behind every case
Introduction to the serial bully | Detailed profile of the serial bully
Types of serial bully: The Attention-Seeker, The Wannabe, The Sociopath and The Guru
Denial - avoiding acceptance of responsibility
Sexual assault and denial in the Paul Hickson case
Projection | Affairs | Validity of testimony | Other web pages
On another page
Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD) | Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
Paranoid Personality Disorder (PPD) | Borderline Personality Disorder
Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy | Attention seeking
How, where and why bullies target their victims
--
The focus of this page is the serial bully in the workplace, however, the profile is relevant to most types of abusers, including:
* adult bullies in the workplace
* abusive and violent partners and family members
* abusers of those in care
* bullying neighbours, landlords, authorities, etc
(more)
(Seneca, 4BC-AD65)
Constant criticism, nit-picking, no empathy, control freak, denial, charm, glib, compulsive liar, devious, manipulative? Read this
The serial bully
How to spot signs and symptoms of serial bullies, sociopaths and psychopaths, including the sociopathic behaviour of the industrial psychopath and the corporate psychopath
Types of serial bully: The Attention-Seeker, The Wannabe, The Guru and The Sociopath
"Most organisations have a serial bully. It never ceases to amaze me how one person's divisive, disordered, dysfunctional behaviour can permeate the entire organisation like a cancer."
Tim Field
"The truth is incontrovertible; malice may attack it, ignorance my deride it, but in the end, there it is."
Winston Churchill
"Lack of knowledge of, or unwillingness to recognise, or outright denial of the existence of the serial bully is the most common reason for an unsatisfactory outcome of a bullying case for both the employee and employer"
Tim Field
(more)
Keywords: serial, bully, profile, psychopath, psychopathic, sociopath, sociopathic, behaviour, behavior, signs, symptoms, corporate, workplace, industrial, manipulator, intimidate, attention, seeker, wannabe, guru, administrative, psychos, suits, snakes, work, workplace, bullying, antisocial
On this page
The can of worms behind every case
Introduction to the serial bully | Detailed profile of the serial bully
Types of serial bully: The Attention-Seeker, The Wannabe, The Sociopath and The Guru
Denial - avoiding acceptance of responsibility
Sexual assault and denial in the Paul Hickson case
Projection | Affairs | Validity of testimony | Other web pages
On another page
Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD) | Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
Paranoid Personality Disorder (PPD) | Borderline Personality Disorder
Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy | Attention seeking
How, where and why bullies target their victims
--
The focus of this page is the serial bully in the workplace, however, the profile is relevant to most types of abusers, including:
* adult bullies in the workplace
* abusive and violent partners and family members
* abusers of those in care
* bullying neighbours, landlords, authorities, etc
(more)
Bullies *are* cowards
Edited on Fri Apr-14-06 12:19 AM by nicknameless
"All cruelty springs from weakness."
(Seneca, 4BC-AD65)
7. So true. Bullies *are* cowards.
IMO, the best online source of information on the issue of bullies and bullying is http://www.bullyonline.org
They address bullying in a variety of settings, such as school, workplace, family and neighborhood.
They provide an overwhelming wealth of info on the topic.
From myths about bullies (http://www.bullyonline.org/schoolbully/myths.htm)
a) bullies select a victim who is physically less strong than they are, for bullies are always cowards
b) bullies select victims who have a mature understanding of the need to resolve conflict with dialogue and who won't turn round and kick the bully
c) bullies select victims who have a low propensity to violence - which is what parents and society instil in and demand of children
d) targets of bullies go to enormous lengths to resolve conflict with dialogue not realising that bullies are too disordered, dysfunctional, aggressive and immature to respond to dialogue
e) targets of bullying go to enormous lengths to resolve the conflict with dialogue often without the assistance of adults and sometimes in spite of the adults who by their failures and inactions condone the bullying (bullies are adept at manipulating the perceptions of adults, especially those adults who lack knowledge, experience, wisdom and emotional maturity)
f) bullies are weak people - normal healthy people don't need to bully
g) bullies are dysfunctional, disordered, aggressive and emotionally retarded which they reveal by their compulsive need to bully
h) bullies are irresponsible people who refuse to accept personal responsibility for their behaviour and the effect of their behaviour on other people
i) bullies prey on people with a kind heart
Myth: Bullies are tough people
Truth: Bullies are weak, cowardly and inadequate people who cannot interact in a mature professional manner and have to resort to psychological violence (and, with child bullies, physical violence) to get their way. Only weak people need to bully.
http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm
Introduction to the serial bully
Embittered by an abusive upbringing, seething with resentment, irritated by others' failure to fulfil his or her superior sense of entitlement, and fuelled by anger resulting from rejection, the serial bully displays an obsessive, compulsive and self-gratifying urge to displace their uncontrolled aggression onto others whilst exhibiting an apparent lack of insight into their behavior and its effect on people around them.
"All cruelty springs from weakness."
(Seneca, 4BC-AD65)
7. So true. Bullies *are* cowards.
IMO, the best online source of information on the issue of bullies and bullying is http://www.bullyonline.org
They address bullying in a variety of settings, such as school, workplace, family and neighborhood.
They provide an overwhelming wealth of info on the topic.
From myths about bullies (http://www.bullyonline.org/schoolbully/myths.htm)
a) bullies select a victim who is physically less strong than they are, for bullies are always cowards
b) bullies select victims who have a mature understanding of the need to resolve conflict with dialogue and who won't turn round and kick the bully
c) bullies select victims who have a low propensity to violence - which is what parents and society instil in and demand of children
d) targets of bullies go to enormous lengths to resolve conflict with dialogue not realising that bullies are too disordered, dysfunctional, aggressive and immature to respond to dialogue
e) targets of bullying go to enormous lengths to resolve the conflict with dialogue often without the assistance of adults and sometimes in spite of the adults who by their failures and inactions condone the bullying (bullies are adept at manipulating the perceptions of adults, especially those adults who lack knowledge, experience, wisdom and emotional maturity)
f) bullies are weak people - normal healthy people don't need to bully
g) bullies are dysfunctional, disordered, aggressive and emotionally retarded which they reveal by their compulsive need to bully
h) bullies are irresponsible people who refuse to accept personal responsibility for their behaviour and the effect of their behaviour on other people
i) bullies prey on people with a kind heart
Myth: Bullies are tough people
Truth: Bullies are weak, cowardly and inadequate people who cannot interact in a mature professional manner and have to resort to psychological violence (and, with child bullies, physical violence) to get their way. Only weak people need to bully.
http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/serial.htm
Introduction to the serial bully
Embittered by an abusive upbringing, seething with resentment, irritated by others' failure to fulfil his or her superior sense of entitlement, and fuelled by anger resulting from rejection, the serial bully displays an obsessive, compulsive and self-gratifying urge to displace their uncontrolled aggression onto others whilst exhibiting an apparent lack of insight into their behavior and its effect on people around them.
Stalking, Bullying & Harrassment
... What do you do?
If he's a stalker, go to the police. Internet Police (FBI) and Local Police (Guatemala) and any other sites they are stalking you. FaceBook, Travelocity, wherever they harass and try to intimidate you. If they menace you in public physically, take a picture of them with your cell phones and immediately send it to your email to later turn over to the police. The date and time will be automatically recorded.
Bullying is treated the same way now-a-days, as is wife-beating. Some people never learn. But they can find out when they are (finally!) in handcuffs!
Keep records of all communications and posts. This will all count in court. Everyone has the right to be save. No one has the right to threaten or intimidate another. Even the bullies and cowards of this world will have to learn! They are, after all, one and the same.
If he's a stalker, go to the police. Internet Police (FBI) and Local Police (Guatemala) and any other sites they are stalking you. FaceBook, Travelocity, wherever they harass and try to intimidate you. If they menace you in public physically, take a picture of them with your cell phones and immediately send it to your email to later turn over to the police. The date and time will be automatically recorded.
Bullying is treated the same way now-a-days, as is wife-beating. Some people never learn. But they can find out when they are (finally!) in handcuffs!
Keep records of all communications and posts. This will all count in court. Everyone has the right to be save. No one has the right to threaten or intimidate another. Even the bullies and cowards of this world will have to learn! They are, after all, one and the same.
House Of Saddam
House Of Saddam
A New HBO Miniseries On The Rise & Fall Of Saddam Hussein. Dec 7, 9pm.
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Landlord Hooked on Drugs
Watch: Dave Chappelle- Drugs (Your Landlord is Hooked on Drugs)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oSsCzfyTrTQ&feature=related
LOL! One never knows...
A Troll is a Troll
Hi kid, I grew up as a greedy reader, a book every two days; which no doubt explains my eye problems.(New glasses Thursday): there were lots of Trolls in my books but I'd kind of forgotten them until I went on line and found them lurking everywhere. Now, Gandalf would know how to deal with this scum. All I can do is shoot an arrow here and there. Yours Cat
Definition of a "Troll"
Definition of a "Troll"
Posted in the Offbeat Forum
http://www.topix.com/forum/news/weird/TTEK0AEKIUGL6EFG4
From Rebecca Goodwin, Chamblee, GA, Thursday Nov 6
Lots of talk about trolls lately but everyone seems to have a different definition on what a troll is. I always thought of a troll as someone who is unregistered and who just runs around making snide comments, then returns back under their bridge.
Hey Hey Tiger Lilly, Jacksonville, FL, Thursday Nov 6
My dad taught me that all things are relative. Keeping that in mind, different people will define a troll differently. So, I'll just say what I think a troll is and others can say what they think a troll is. If enough people post to this thread, we will have a better idea what we all see as troll posters.
To me, a troll is someone who comes here to cause problems. They may just make posts to everyone or they may pick one or more posters and reply to them. They have major issues to deal with and instead of getting the help they need, they come here and go for the quick fix. By that I mean, when they post their comments and read the replies, it makes them feel better in the short run. Because it's just a quick fix, it must be done over and over again, cause it does not last that long. Many times trolls make troll polls. They pick one or more posters and start a poll where we can all vote and post. You have all seen these polls, like Who Is Here Too Much Or Who Is The Most Sexually Frustrated, that kind of thing. Some trolls are more like stalkers and they target one poster and just go after them with a vengence. There are times regulars don't get along and they fight back and forth and call each other trolls. To me, those people are not trolls, they are just having a disagreement, they don't like each other, and they fight it out. Ok, that is my take, I hope others will post to this thread. I would love to read what others think about this subject."
BC in Chicago, Bloomingdale, IL, Thursday Nov 6
As I see it, there are two main categories of trolls:
The first is by far the more obvious - the foam at the mouth, calling everyone names, hating everyone who disagrees even slightly with them, generally offensive kind, who is openly out to bait people and gets his/her kicks out of the outrage and havoc they cause.
The second kind is by far harder to detect, weeks may go by before it becomes obvious. That's the more subtle kind, who--on the surface--is all sweetness and light, peace to all, let's all get along, etc., etc. Then, out of the blue, the claws come out. This particular troll often just picks on one or two people and stabs them in the back again and again (frequently for no discernible reason). This is actually the more vicious kind, because many other posters will defend this one, since he/she is "such a nice person," "means so well," "has not done anything bad" (to others, that is), etc. etc. I have found this kind more often in the RW too, such as in offices. The first kind wouldn't last long in a work environment--what employer/HR department puts up with openly offensive troublemakers? But the second category gets away with this crap for years.
Do I have a solution? Other than ignore, ignore, ignore, no - I don't. However, unlike the real world, we don't have to take it this seriously here.
Just my take on it...
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Bababooeey, “Yes, I do bite!!”, Thursday Nov 6
You forgot about the mutant quasi-trolls who are registered and do that exact same thing. I think it's related to multiple personality disorder coupled with living under power lines or adjacent to chemical/nuclear plants & eating paint chips as a child. Gives one the impression that they are more than they really are.
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Pretty Feet, Sicklerville, NJ, Thursday Nov 6
i'd say a troll is someone who continues to harass others day in and day out.
its like they come here for just that reason, but i do think theres a reason for it.
IMO i think that troll is acting out frustrations that he feels with topix and the people itself.
hes frustrated because he feels hes being rejected here. in other words, people arent responding to him so he feels the need to say things to hurt and annoy others to get even.
its his way of getting attention, whether its the right kind or not doesnt matter, hes being noticed and people are finally "talking" to him. whether its justified doesnt matter either, because to him it is. its his way of being the "star on topix".
thats what i think, rejection causes a powerful emotion that a person feels and everyone has their way of dealing with it.
then again i think some trolls are just messing with it, having a good laugh at other peoples expense. its a thrill for them.
whatever, i still say if a person is bothering u then, best to ignore and not read any of their stuff. if u do, then u are putting urself in harms way. if u dont read them, they cant hurt u..
:O)
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D Louis
I would think that a troll is some one who has no love or real joy in their life. And just hates to see others so happy. I, like so many others come here to post and have a little fun. A troll is some one who hates to see people happy and having fun. And that's why they are always on the attack. Or just maybe they were that kid who was bullied all through school. (I am not a fan of bullying at all.)
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Bababooeey
Actually just 2 tiny minded dopes with nothing better to do. At this point all they do is take limp noodle potshots amusing themselves and nobody else with gutter snipes & broken record comments.
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(more)
Posted in the Offbeat Forum
http://www.topix.com/forum/news/weird/TTEK0AEKIUGL6EFG4
From Rebecca Goodwin, Chamblee, GA, Thursday Nov 6
Lots of talk about trolls lately but everyone seems to have a different definition on what a troll is. I always thought of a troll as someone who is unregistered and who just runs around making snide comments, then returns back under their bridge.
Hey Hey Tiger Lilly, Jacksonville, FL, Thursday Nov 6
My dad taught me that all things are relative. Keeping that in mind, different people will define a troll differently. So, I'll just say what I think a troll is and others can say what they think a troll is. If enough people post to this thread, we will have a better idea what we all see as troll posters.
To me, a troll is someone who comes here to cause problems. They may just make posts to everyone or they may pick one or more posters and reply to them. They have major issues to deal with and instead of getting the help they need, they come here and go for the quick fix. By that I mean, when they post their comments and read the replies, it makes them feel better in the short run. Because it's just a quick fix, it must be done over and over again, cause it does not last that long. Many times trolls make troll polls. They pick one or more posters and start a poll where we can all vote and post. You have all seen these polls, like Who Is Here Too Much Or Who Is The Most Sexually Frustrated, that kind of thing. Some trolls are more like stalkers and they target one poster and just go after them with a vengence. There are times regulars don't get along and they fight back and forth and call each other trolls. To me, those people are not trolls, they are just having a disagreement, they don't like each other, and they fight it out. Ok, that is my take, I hope others will post to this thread. I would love to read what others think about this subject."
BC in Chicago, Bloomingdale, IL, Thursday Nov 6
As I see it, there are two main categories of trolls:
The first is by far the more obvious - the foam at the mouth, calling everyone names, hating everyone who disagrees even slightly with them, generally offensive kind, who is openly out to bait people and gets his/her kicks out of the outrage and havoc they cause.
The second kind is by far harder to detect, weeks may go by before it becomes obvious. That's the more subtle kind, who--on the surface--is all sweetness and light, peace to all, let's all get along, etc., etc. Then, out of the blue, the claws come out. This particular troll often just picks on one or two people and stabs them in the back again and again (frequently for no discernible reason). This is actually the more vicious kind, because many other posters will defend this one, since he/she is "such a nice person," "means so well," "has not done anything bad" (to others, that is), etc. etc. I have found this kind more often in the RW too, such as in offices. The first kind wouldn't last long in a work environment--what employer/HR department puts up with openly offensive troublemakers? But the second category gets away with this crap for years.
Do I have a solution? Other than ignore, ignore, ignore, no - I don't. However, unlike the real world, we don't have to take it this seriously here.
Just my take on it...
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Bababooeey, “Yes, I do bite!!”, Thursday Nov 6
You forgot about the mutant quasi-trolls who are registered and do that exact same thing. I think it's related to multiple personality disorder coupled with living under power lines or adjacent to chemical/nuclear plants & eating paint chips as a child. Gives one the impression that they are more than they really are.
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Pretty Feet, Sicklerville, NJ, Thursday Nov 6
i'd say a troll is someone who continues to harass others day in and day out.
its like they come here for just that reason, but i do think theres a reason for it.
IMO i think that troll is acting out frustrations that he feels with topix and the people itself.
hes frustrated because he feels hes being rejected here. in other words, people arent responding to him so he feels the need to say things to hurt and annoy others to get even.
its his way of getting attention, whether its the right kind or not doesnt matter, hes being noticed and people are finally "talking" to him. whether its justified doesnt matter either, because to him it is. its his way of being the "star on topix".
thats what i think, rejection causes a powerful emotion that a person feels and everyone has their way of dealing with it.
then again i think some trolls are just messing with it, having a good laugh at other peoples expense. its a thrill for them.
whatever, i still say if a person is bothering u then, best to ignore and not read any of their stuff. if u do, then u are putting urself in harms way. if u dont read them, they cant hurt u..
:O)
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D Louis
I would think that a troll is some one who has no love or real joy in their life. And just hates to see others so happy. I, like so many others come here to post and have a little fun. A troll is some one who hates to see people happy and having fun. And that's why they are always on the attack. Or just maybe they were that kid who was bullied all through school. (I am not a fan of bullying at all.)
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Bababooeey
Actually just 2 tiny minded dopes with nothing better to do. At this point all they do is take limp noodle potshots amusing themselves and nobody else with gutter snipes & broken record comments.
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(more)
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Update on Hotel from Hell, Posada Los Encuentros
Soon enough I hope this situation will be resolved; it has gotten very ugly, having to go to higher courts as no meditation resolution was achieved. However, I am learning just how low some people will go, including the owner Richard Morgan, but it will ultimately work in my favor when the truth comes out. The worse he tries to do to me, the more it goes to show his true nature and character. So filled with anger and hate! I've never seen anything like this, especially in a "professional" situation, by someone who runs a so-called hotel. His emails are so vile and vicious it's hard not to imagine that this person was divorcing me, when I don't even know him. He has tried to slander my character at every turn, but he has nothing to work with but anger and fear.
Now we will have two lawsuits in two countries and I will be able to write a book on how "not to get ripped off" by an unwholesome hotel that does not even abide by the law. There are so many violations there that Morgan will be in for a number of very big surprises. He's just making things worse for HIMSELF by attacking me (which changes NOTHING regarding the court cases), but that doesn't seem to matter to Morgan at all. Things will get even more interesting very shortly. The biggest lesson to learn here, for me, is to NEVER pay in advance, ever again, no matter what the story is. If I hadn't done that, Morgan could never have stolen this money from me. It's almost $2,000.00 and he isn't going to get to keep it. No matter what, he will have to repay me the correct amount. He will have to find someone else to "punish and penalize" with his anger. Why he feels the need to do this, I will never know. But I hope it ends soon.
What makes some people just plain MEAN? Barking dogs that have a bite... I'll take a stick to him if he tries to attack me again. Next time he threatens me, I'll get a restraining order. In the U.S. and in Guatemala we have protections from people like him.
Now we will have two lawsuits in two countries and I will be able to write a book on how "not to get ripped off" by an unwholesome hotel that does not even abide by the law. There are so many violations there that Morgan will be in for a number of very big surprises. He's just making things worse for HIMSELF by attacking me (which changes NOTHING regarding the court cases), but that doesn't seem to matter to Morgan at all. Things will get even more interesting very shortly. The biggest lesson to learn here, for me, is to NEVER pay in advance, ever again, no matter what the story is. If I hadn't done that, Morgan could never have stolen this money from me. It's almost $2,000.00 and he isn't going to get to keep it. No matter what, he will have to repay me the correct amount. He will have to find someone else to "punish and penalize" with his anger. Why he feels the need to do this, I will never know. But I hope it ends soon.
What makes some people just plain MEAN? Barking dogs that have a bite... I'll take a stick to him if he tries to attack me again. Next time he threatens me, I'll get a restraining order. In the U.S. and in Guatemala we have protections from people like him.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
(Management representative) response - LOL!
What a joke: Richard Morgan, owner, posted this under MY review, but not the other person's. Does he think that by ignoring their negative review it will "just go away?" Has he threatened to sue them as well for "defamation?" LOL... we'll see about that. Cleaning a public hot tub "several times a week" is unhygenic and unheard of here. Everyone cleans it every day, just like they used to when I stayed there before. Morgan's obstinancy is going to do nothing but bite him in the a*** as he admits here that he doesn't clean the tub every day as he should. Now, to the Hotel complaint board! Photos don't lie.
Management Response
birdmanPanajachel, owner
(Management representative)
Jul 16, 2008
Posada Los Encuentros was established nearly 10 years ago by the current owner who lives on the premises and is directly involved in its management as well as with helping guests understand the unique natural and cultural dimensions of the Atitlan environment. Our employees are neighbors who are highly trusted. They have worked with us for years and have been almost invariably praised by guests. While physical discomforts and unexpected encounters with nature sometimes occur in this Third World environment, The posada management is dedicated to minimizing problems associated with these and minor construction inconveniences. We always respond immediate to client concerns. Our "hot tub" is filled with natural, mineralized thermal waters and is, thus, from a source not completely under our control. To best benefit our clients,we keep it chemical-free and change the waters several times weekly. The overwhelming satisfaction with our lodgings have been well-appreciated by reviews of our guests on tripadvisor and other travel broker site s that help travelers select an appropriate destination.
This response is the subjective opinion of the management representative and not of TripAdvisor LLC.
Management Response
birdmanPanajachel, owner
(Management representative)
Jul 16, 2008
Posada Los Encuentros was established nearly 10 years ago by the current owner who lives on the premises and is directly involved in its management as well as with helping guests understand the unique natural and cultural dimensions of the Atitlan environment. Our employees are neighbors who are highly trusted. They have worked with us for years and have been almost invariably praised by guests. While physical discomforts and unexpected encounters with nature sometimes occur in this Third World environment, The posada management is dedicated to minimizing problems associated with these and minor construction inconveniences. We always respond immediate to client concerns. Our "hot tub" is filled with natural, mineralized thermal waters and is, thus, from a source not completely under our control. To best benefit our clients,we keep it chemical-free and change the waters several times weekly. The overwhelming satisfaction with our lodgings have been well-appreciated by reviews of our guests on tripadvisor and other travel broker site s that help travelers select an appropriate destination.
This response is the subjective opinion of the management representative and not of TripAdvisor LLC.
“Worst experience of my life”
Reviews from TripAdvisor.com
“Worst experience of my life”
Posada Los Encuentros
Review from TripAdvisor.com
1 of 5 stars
AnonymousNY020
NY NY
Jun 30, 2008
The Posada Los Encuentros used to be one of our favorite places to stay, but ever since the owner's wife left, things have gone downhill to a terrible degree. The room was filthy, dirt was a quarter of an inch thick under the carpet, windowsills were covered with dead insects and dirt, dirty windows, broken window screens, water bottle was filthy with dirty yellow water provided, the outdoor hot tub was rarely cleaned and covered in slime, with nests of biting insects under the lid when you opened it!
The construction materials and debris were everywhere with workers pounding from 7:00 a.m. on until the night, sometimes six or seven days a week, and the overall atmosphere was one of chaos, conflict and confusion. This place will be avoided at all costs, at least until it receives new management or ownership of some kind. Sad state of affairs to see such a lovely place, with such a previous excellent reputation, be driven into the ground.
The employees of the hotel also tried to gain money from us by fraudulent means, so this is not a safe, friendly or trustworthy place to stay. After notifying the owner of some of the problems, we received hostile, aggressive and threatening emails, which are being filed with the Hotel tourist board in Guatemala.
It's unfortunate that the ownership and management of this previously fine hotel has changed. Until major changes take place, this is not an enjoyable or safe place to be.
* This TripAdvisor Member:
o Liked — Nearby Lake Atitlan. Nothing about the accommodation.
o Disliked — Terrible service, noise, dirty room, construction debris, unsafe and dangerous conditions.
“Worst experience of my life”
Posada Los Encuentros
Review from TripAdvisor.com
1 of 5 stars
AnonymousNY020
NY NY
Jun 30, 2008
The Posada Los Encuentros used to be one of our favorite places to stay, but ever since the owner's wife left, things have gone downhill to a terrible degree. The room was filthy, dirt was a quarter of an inch thick under the carpet, windowsills were covered with dead insects and dirt, dirty windows, broken window screens, water bottle was filthy with dirty yellow water provided, the outdoor hot tub was rarely cleaned and covered in slime, with nests of biting insects under the lid when you opened it!
The construction materials and debris were everywhere with workers pounding from 7:00 a.m. on until the night, sometimes six or seven days a week, and the overall atmosphere was one of chaos, conflict and confusion. This place will be avoided at all costs, at least until it receives new management or ownership of some kind. Sad state of affairs to see such a lovely place, with such a previous excellent reputation, be driven into the ground.
The employees of the hotel also tried to gain money from us by fraudulent means, so this is not a safe, friendly or trustworthy place to stay. After notifying the owner of some of the problems, we received hostile, aggressive and threatening emails, which are being filed with the Hotel tourist board in Guatemala.
It's unfortunate that the ownership and management of this previously fine hotel has changed. Until major changes take place, this is not an enjoyable or safe place to be.
* This TripAdvisor Member:
o Liked — Nearby Lake Atitlan. Nothing about the accommodation.
o Disliked — Terrible service, noise, dirty room, construction debris, unsafe and dangerous conditions.
“Friendly place, but terribly dirty”
Another review from the same time period I stayed there; service has really gone downhill. Some people never learn, do they?
“Friendly place, but terribly dirty”
Posada Los Encuentros
Review from TripAdvisor.com
2 of 5 stars
CAExplorers
Leeds
Jul 5, 2008
1/1 found this review helpful
We stayed here in May and although the staff were friendly enough the place needed a darn good clean.
The room was stuffy and smelt unclean, the heavy rugs were filthy and the fresh water outside looked very dubious. Thick layer of dush below th bed and around the room.
One look at the hottub and we declined...it needed to be clean or at least slightly clean for us to put one toe in.
After reading reviews of the place we were a little let down by what could be a wonderful place to stay.
Once they've really cleaned up, freshenend the rooms, washed out the hot tub it would eb OK, but our advice is don't stay until they've dne that.
* This TripAdvisor Member:
o Liked — Not a huge amount!
o Disliked — Very, very dirty
This review is the subjective opinion of a TripAdvisor member and not of TripAdvisor LLC.
CAExplorers's Summary
Date of Stay: May 2008
Traveled with: Spouse / significant other
Visit was for: Quality time with family
Age group: 25-34
Member since: July 05, 2008
* My ratings for this hotel are:
o 2 of 5 stars Value
o 1 of 5 stars Rooms
o 3 of 5 stars Location
o 1 of 5 stars Cleanliness
o 3 of 5 stars Check in / front desk
o 3 of 5 stars Service
“Friendly place, but terribly dirty”
Posada Los Encuentros
Review from TripAdvisor.com
2 of 5 stars
CAExplorers
Leeds
Jul 5, 2008
1/1 found this review helpful
We stayed here in May and although the staff were friendly enough the place needed a darn good clean.
The room was stuffy and smelt unclean, the heavy rugs were filthy and the fresh water outside looked very dubious. Thick layer of dush below th bed and around the room.
One look at the hottub and we declined...it needed to be clean or at least slightly clean for us to put one toe in.
After reading reviews of the place we were a little let down by what could be a wonderful place to stay.
Once they've really cleaned up, freshenend the rooms, washed out the hot tub it would eb OK, but our advice is don't stay until they've dne that.
* This TripAdvisor Member:
o Liked — Not a huge amount!
o Disliked — Very, very dirty
This review is the subjective opinion of a TripAdvisor member and not of TripAdvisor LLC.
CAExplorers's Summary
Date of Stay: May 2008
Traveled with: Spouse / significant other
Visit was for: Quality time with family
Age group: 25-34
Member since: July 05, 2008
* My ratings for this hotel are:
o 2 of 5 stars Value
o 1 of 5 stars Rooms
o 3 of 5 stars Location
o 1 of 5 stars Cleanliness
o 3 of 5 stars Check in / front desk
o 3 of 5 stars Service
New Rental agreement - Posada Los Encuentros 4.25.08
I rec'd this on April 25, 2008, wired 6 months rent money in advance to Richard Morgan's bank account, now he says this contract is "NOT LEGAL AND HE WON'T HONOR IT" here in Guatemala. He set me up from the start, and is charging me $1,000.00 per month instead of the $350.00 per month that was agreed upon. Nothing costs $1,000.00 per month here in Guatemala, not even the largest mansions with lakefront property. I was there one month and ten days and am being charged $2,000.00 including "penalty." This man is a real crook from the get-go. For one room that he said he would rent for $350.00 per month. It's unbelievable.
But emails DO count in the states, a small fact he may have overlooked, and he had me send the money from the US to his US bank account, and I return to the states in less than two weeks. Perhaps he has forgotten all this? Time will tell, won't it? What will the judges in Guatemala and the United States have to say about this, as well as the Consumer Protection and Hotel complaint boards in both countries? I do have some rights, no matter what Mr. Morgan and his girlfriend may believe. We'll see, won't we?
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New Rental agreement - Posada Los Encuentros
Adventures in Education, Inc.
At Lake Atitlan
Panajachel, Solola, Guatemala, C.A.
STATEMENT OF ACCOUNT
Guests: Cathrine Todd ctodd1000@gmail.com
Description of Services: # 6 El Nidito
1 Person ( based 7 month Rental agreement)
01 April– 3 April– 2 nights
03 April– 31 October– 7 Month $2400
Monthly $350
excluding breakfast
TOTAL: US $ 2400.00
Date Transaction Amount Balance Explanation
01/27/2008 cash $1200.00 $1200.00 cash
04/01/2008 cash $1200.00 $0 Bank of America
Management
Monthly Rent starting with November 2008 $480 excluding breakfast
Monthly Rent will jump up again from December 2008
But emails DO count in the states, a small fact he may have overlooked, and he had me send the money from the US to his US bank account, and I return to the states in less than two weeks. Perhaps he has forgotten all this? Time will tell, won't it? What will the judges in Guatemala and the United States have to say about this, as well as the Consumer Protection and Hotel complaint boards in both countries? I do have some rights, no matter what Mr. Morgan and his girlfriend may believe. We'll see, won't we?
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New Rental agreement - Posada Los Encuentros
Adventures in Education, Inc.
At Lake Atitlan
Panajachel, Solola, Guatemala, C.A.
STATEMENT OF ACCOUNT
Guests: Cathrine Todd ctodd1000@gmail.com
Description of Services: # 6 El Nidito
1 Person ( based 7 month Rental agreement)
01 April– 3 April– 2 nights
03 April– 31 October– 7 Month $2400
Monthly $350
excluding breakfast
TOTAL: US $ 2400.00
Date Transaction Amount Balance Explanation
01/27/2008 cash $1200.00 $1200.00 cash
04/01/2008 cash $1200.00 $0 Bank of America
Management
Monthly Rent starting with November 2008 $480 excluding breakfast
Monthly Rent will jump up again from December 2008
How am I ? Up & Down
Catherine Todd, Wed, Jul 16, 2008 at 8:52 AM
To: Learned Luddite
Thanks, Cat...
"Dear Catherine, listened to the music and my Irish feet started tapping the measure even as my brain was listening to the subtle interplay of the musicians.To be fair, this is not my fault, my mother was a Fitzgerald and Celtic music always whips up something in my blood and moves my feet."
So glad you liked the music! I had no inkling you were Irish (like me - mother was a Merrick) but something told me you might like it! I particularly loved the way you described your "experience" of it.
I'm doing so-so with the horrible Richard and his horrible girlfriend. Bouncing all over the place, actually. Being "big" being "small" trying to figure out if it's worth it to purse getting my money here and / or in the states, how much will it cost financially to fly from NC to AZ to file against his corporation there (can file by mail, have to appear in court), wondering why oh why did he do this to me, so eager to lie, so eager to steal... how could I have been such a fool, afraid to pay anyone anything now no matter what kind of "contract" I have written in stone... that's the worst part. I don't know how to do business anymore, or trust anyone for anything. It's like being robbed and raped by someone you KNEW.
I had put other people up there at the hotel for a week before, I had stayed there for two weeks myself to "be sure everything was alright" and everything was "fine." I couldn't wait to move in. Then the first day, everything changes and I know I've made a BIG mistake, but he has all my money. That was another mistake: he wanted three months rent in advance, I ended up giving him six or seven months. Looking back, I can't believe it, but I did this all the time with my previous landlord (since I'm back and forth to the states all the time) and it worked out fine.
Then his manager tries to take me for everything I've got, I find out Richard's wife has left and divorced him, he's out of money and his true character comes out. I become the target. It's just unbelievable. Now his evil witch girlfriend (in her fifties, probably) with her cocaine and alcohol addictions (same as him?) comes to defend Richard and calls me all kinds of names and accuses me of criminal activities in court (no proof of course) and they both jump up in my face and threaten me the moment the judge leaves the room. It was awful and still is. Just like growing up at home. Mother and Father and punishment and a beating waiting in the wings. Growing up in a Nazi concentration camp where nothing you did was ever right, the rules always kept changing, you were penalized and punished at whim, lies were accepted as truth, and death was waiting around every door.
Last night went to a spiritual healing at the local church with the pastor's wife and a Guatemalan friend, who has been getting me to go to church, and it really helped. While I was there.
Then up all night again for the second night in a row. This HAS to be God's way of "clearing my heart" and forcing me to see that I do have power now, I am not a helpless, blameless child who is getting the sh** kicked out of her, that I do have rights and I CAN stand up for myself. I used to be so good at standing up, but I did it with "full armour" and a defensive posture. Now that I've tried to give up anger and not react that way, not go on the offensive which I do so well, I'm sitting here lost and alone. And afraid. And full of tears. I actually cried in front of everyone at the magistrate's office after those two threatened me and I ran out of the room. I was mortified, but since it's a Latin American country tears are more than acceptable. It was the strangest experience of my life, seeing myself sitting there scared out of my wits, tears streaming down my face, talking about how my father was "just like Richard, so angry and so violent" and how my father "tried to strangle me in front of witnesses" and tried to kill me three different times.
When will I get over this? I hope the answer is NOW. Now that I am at least showing my fear on the outside as well as keeping it on the inside, but not forever under wraps. I am NOT the "fearless individual" that everyone thinks I am. I do things that require great courage - from me - since I am so fearful of so many things, but I do them anyway, but that doesn't make me NOT FEARFUL. So now if I can get the "inside to match the outside" maybe things will be alright. Fear can come out to play, so to speak, and then it can go on it's way. Maybe it will be over that way. If I can take care of the Richard thing, and not let it destroy my peace of mind - which it is doing right now - then I will have won. That is all I can hope for and it will be enough.
My wonderful translator Gabriella, who is studying to be a lawyer, says "Don't worry Catherine. We are going to teach Richard a lesson - about how he has to treat people. He obviously hasn't learned this yet and we are here to do it."
Amen. Then she said "You have to get over being so afraid, as this fear is making you sick."
Doubly true. I said "I've been trying my whole life. How do I do it?"
I have stood up for myself over and over again, but the fear never truly leaves. Now I'm trying to do with with asking God at the same time to help me on this road and to hold my hand. If these poor Guatemalans can have peace and be happy day by day, then I with all my credit cards and belongings must be able to hope the same will come my way. This is my church and my happiness, waiting in the wings. I believe the word is "Faith" and I hope it will return, once again. It's been gone for such a long time.
Lesson from the church yesterday:
I apparently have to FORGIVE Richard (ughhh) and ALLOW God to "replace the stolen money" while STILL going to the "big court in Solola" and I was down on my knees praying while the two women were calling God into the room and into me, into my heart to change my heart, to help me and heal me and give me faith. Tears were flowing, let me tell you.
I tell you, to a lapsed Catholic like me, it was pretty incredible. But I don't have the right kind of book to read at night when the devils close in. Now that it's daytime someone started playing music at 7:00 a.m. and I went to sleep around 4 or 5, and I have appointments with people all day so am exhausted for the second day. I am not sure what to do but LEARN how to PRAY.
I have to develop FAITH in something; what else is there in the END?
What's with all these capitals, I can hear her say as she types away... Good to hear from you this morning and be reminded of the "toe-tapping magical dance" that cannot "lead us astray." Will keep listening to this beautiful music; I downloaded three albums worth.
How are YOU doing? I looked up "Luddite" online before I got your answer, and yes, they were one and the same! LOL...
Your friend, Catherine
"The winds of grace blow all the time. All we need do is set our sails."
~ Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa ~ Gospel of Ramakrishna
On Wed, Jul 16, 2008 at 8:20 AM, Learned Luddite wrote:
Dear Catherine, listened to the music and my Irish feet started tapping the measure even as my brain was listening to the subtle interplay of the musicians.To be fair, this is not my fault, my mother was a Fitzgerald and celtic music always whips up something in my blood and moves my feet.
Heel to toe and row on row, all for Mairie's wedding! This was superb.
Are you alright with the awful Richard?
Your friend, Cat
If you want to hear some really interesting, beautiful folk / Celtic music - different than anything I've heard before, listen to "Music of Waters" by Shira Kammen at Magnatune.com. http://magnatune.com/artists/albums/shira-waters/
You can listen to the entire album and buy the CD or a download later on if you want. She's got 6 albums out, all are great. I have a monthly subscription and can download whatever I want. It's really great. This music is really incredible. Love "Downstream" the best, and some of the fiddle and drumming tracks.
/
I've attached "Downstream" by Shira Kammen. Will this mp3 file open and play on your computer? Give it a try and let me know... gorgeous Folk / Celtic music. If not, you can listen to it on the website. Yours, Catherine
To: Learned Luddite
Thanks, Cat...
"Dear Catherine, listened to the music and my Irish feet started tapping the measure even as my brain was listening to the subtle interplay of the musicians.To be fair, this is not my fault, my mother was a Fitzgerald and Celtic music always whips up something in my blood and moves my feet."
So glad you liked the music! I had no inkling you were Irish (like me - mother was a Merrick) but something told me you might like it! I particularly loved the way you described your "experience" of it.
I'm doing so-so with the horrible Richard and his horrible girlfriend. Bouncing all over the place, actually. Being "big" being "small" trying to figure out if it's worth it to purse getting my money here and / or in the states, how much will it cost financially to fly from NC to AZ to file against his corporation there (can file by mail, have to appear in court), wondering why oh why did he do this to me, so eager to lie, so eager to steal... how could I have been such a fool, afraid to pay anyone anything now no matter what kind of "contract" I have written in stone... that's the worst part. I don't know how to do business anymore, or trust anyone for anything. It's like being robbed and raped by someone you KNEW.
I had put other people up there at the hotel for a week before, I had stayed there for two weeks myself to "be sure everything was alright" and everything was "fine." I couldn't wait to move in. Then the first day, everything changes and I know I've made a BIG mistake, but he has all my money. That was another mistake: he wanted three months rent in advance, I ended up giving him six or seven months. Looking back, I can't believe it, but I did this all the time with my previous landlord (since I'm back and forth to the states all the time) and it worked out fine.
Then his manager tries to take me for everything I've got, I find out Richard's wife has left and divorced him, he's out of money and his true character comes out. I become the target. It's just unbelievable. Now his evil witch girlfriend (in her fifties, probably) with her cocaine and alcohol addictions (same as him?) comes to defend Richard and calls me all kinds of names and accuses me of criminal activities in court (no proof of course) and they both jump up in my face and threaten me the moment the judge leaves the room. It was awful and still is. Just like growing up at home. Mother and Father and punishment and a beating waiting in the wings. Growing up in a Nazi concentration camp where nothing you did was ever right, the rules always kept changing, you were penalized and punished at whim, lies were accepted as truth, and death was waiting around every door.
Last night went to a spiritual healing at the local church with the pastor's wife and a Guatemalan friend, who has been getting me to go to church, and it really helped. While I was there.
Then up all night again for the second night in a row. This HAS to be God's way of "clearing my heart" and forcing me to see that I do have power now, I am not a helpless, blameless child who is getting the sh** kicked out of her, that I do have rights and I CAN stand up for myself. I used to be so good at standing up, but I did it with "full armour" and a defensive posture. Now that I've tried to give up anger and not react that way, not go on the offensive which I do so well, I'm sitting here lost and alone. And afraid. And full of tears. I actually cried in front of everyone at the magistrate's office after those two threatened me and I ran out of the room. I was mortified, but since it's a Latin American country tears are more than acceptable. It was the strangest experience of my life, seeing myself sitting there scared out of my wits, tears streaming down my face, talking about how my father was "just like Richard, so angry and so violent" and how my father "tried to strangle me in front of witnesses" and tried to kill me three different times.
When will I get over this? I hope the answer is NOW. Now that I am at least showing my fear on the outside as well as keeping it on the inside, but not forever under wraps. I am NOT the "fearless individual" that everyone thinks I am. I do things that require great courage - from me - since I am so fearful of so many things, but I do them anyway, but that doesn't make me NOT FEARFUL. So now if I can get the "inside to match the outside" maybe things will be alright. Fear can come out to play, so to speak, and then it can go on it's way. Maybe it will be over that way. If I can take care of the Richard thing, and not let it destroy my peace of mind - which it is doing right now - then I will have won. That is all I can hope for and it will be enough.
My wonderful translator Gabriella, who is studying to be a lawyer, says "Don't worry Catherine. We are going to teach Richard a lesson - about how he has to treat people. He obviously hasn't learned this yet and we are here to do it."
Amen. Then she said "You have to get over being so afraid, as this fear is making you sick."
Doubly true. I said "I've been trying my whole life. How do I do it?"
I have stood up for myself over and over again, but the fear never truly leaves. Now I'm trying to do with with asking God at the same time to help me on this road and to hold my hand. If these poor Guatemalans can have peace and be happy day by day, then I with all my credit cards and belongings must be able to hope the same will come my way. This is my church and my happiness, waiting in the wings. I believe the word is "Faith" and I hope it will return, once again. It's been gone for such a long time.
Lesson from the church yesterday:
I apparently have to FORGIVE Richard (ughhh) and ALLOW God to "replace the stolen money" while STILL going to the "big court in Solola" and I was down on my knees praying while the two women were calling God into the room and into me, into my heart to change my heart, to help me and heal me and give me faith. Tears were flowing, let me tell you.
I tell you, to a lapsed Catholic like me, it was pretty incredible. But I don't have the right kind of book to read at night when the devils close in. Now that it's daytime someone started playing music at 7:00 a.m. and I went to sleep around 4 or 5, and I have appointments with people all day so am exhausted for the second day. I am not sure what to do but LEARN how to PRAY.
I have to develop FAITH in something; what else is there in the END?
What's with all these capitals, I can hear her say as she types away... Good to hear from you this morning and be reminded of the "toe-tapping magical dance" that cannot "lead us astray." Will keep listening to this beautiful music; I downloaded three albums worth.
How are YOU doing? I looked up "Luddite" online before I got your answer, and yes, they were one and the same! LOL...
Your friend, Catherine
"The winds of grace blow all the time. All we need do is set our sails."
~ Sri Ramakrishna Paramahamsa ~ Gospel of Ramakrishna
On Wed, Jul 16, 2008 at 8:20 AM, Learned Luddite wrote:
Dear Catherine, listened to the music and my Irish feet started tapping the measure even as my brain was listening to the subtle interplay of the musicians.To be fair, this is not my fault, my mother was a Fitzgerald and celtic music always whips up something in my blood and moves my feet.
Heel to toe and row on row, all for Mairie's wedding! This was superb.
Are you alright with the awful Richard?
Your friend, Cat
If you want to hear some really interesting, beautiful folk / Celtic music - different than anything I've heard before, listen to "Music of Waters" by Shira Kammen at Magnatune.com. http://magnatune.com/artists/albums/shira-waters/
You can listen to the entire album and buy the CD or a download later on if you want. She's got 6 albums out, all are great. I have a monthly subscription and can download whatever I want. It's really great. This music is really incredible. Love "Downstream" the best, and some of the fiddle and drumming tracks.
/
I've attached "Downstream" by Shira Kammen. Will this mp3 file open and play on your computer? Give it a try and let me know... gorgeous Folk / Celtic music. If not, you can listen to it on the website. Yours, Catherine
Going to court against Richard Morgan
I love it
Learned Luddite, Wed, Jul 16, 2008 at 8:20 AM
To: Catherine Todd
Dear Catherine, listened to the music and my Irish feet started tapping the measure even as my brain was listening to the subtle interplay of the musicians.To be fair, this is not my fault, my mother was a Fitzgerald and celtic music always whips up something in my blood and moves my feet.
Heel to toe and row on row, all for Mairie's wedding! This was superb.
Are you alright with the awful Richard?
Your friend, Cat
Catherine Todd wrote:
If you want to hear some really interesting, beautiful folk / Celtic music - different than anything I've heard before, listen to "Music of Waters" by Shira Kammen at Magnatune.com. http://magnatune.com/artists/albums/shira-waters/
You can listen to the entire album and buy the CD or a download later on if you want. She's got 6 albums out, all are great. I have a monthly subscription and can download whatever I want. It's really great. This music is really incredible. Love "Downstream" the best, and some of the fiddle and drumming tracks.
I've attached "Downstream" by Shira Kammen. Will this mp3 file open and play on your computer? Give it a try and let me know... gorgeous Folk / Celtic music. If not, you can listen to it on the website. Yours, Catherine
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Catherine Todd, Wed, Jul 16, 2008 at 8:54 AM
To: Learned Luddite
Forgot to mention that Richard is "going to sue me for defamation." I gave him a bad review mark online and I filed against him in court. I wonder if he's going to threaten the other person who gave him a bad review at TripAdvisory, too? I wrote to them to see what their policy is about this. We'll see, but it's awful to be threatened this way by a barking dog who needs to be shot. Not too much compassion in me right now, is there? CT
Learned Luddite, Wed, Jul 16, 2008 at 8:20 AM
To: Catherine Todd
Dear Catherine, listened to the music and my Irish feet started tapping the measure even as my brain was listening to the subtle interplay of the musicians.To be fair, this is not my fault, my mother was a Fitzgerald and celtic music always whips up something in my blood and moves my feet.
Heel to toe and row on row, all for Mairie's wedding! This was superb.
Are you alright with the awful Richard?
Your friend, Cat
Catherine Todd wrote:
If you want to hear some really interesting, beautiful folk / Celtic music - different than anything I've heard before, listen to "Music of Waters" by Shira Kammen at Magnatune.com. http://magnatune.com/artists/albums/shira-waters/
You can listen to the entire album and buy the CD or a download later on if you want. She's got 6 albums out, all are great. I have a monthly subscription and can download whatever I want. It's really great. This music is really incredible. Love "Downstream" the best, and some of the fiddle and drumming tracks.
I've attached "Downstream" by Shira Kammen. Will this mp3 file open and play on your computer? Give it a try and let me know... gorgeous Folk / Celtic music. If not, you can listen to it on the website. Yours, Catherine
---
Catherine Todd, Wed, Jul 16, 2008 at 8:54 AM
To: Learned Luddite
Forgot to mention that Richard is "going to sue me for defamation." I gave him a bad review mark online and I filed against him in court. I wonder if he's going to threaten the other person who gave him a bad review at TripAdvisory, too? I wrote to them to see what their policy is about this. We'll see, but it's awful to be threatened this way by a barking dog who needs to be shot. Not too much compassion in me right now, is there? CT
Monday, July 14, 2008
Focus on the POSITIVE
photo from Flickr, Catherine Todd, flickr.com/photos/catherinetodd/
Don't worry, Catherine...
Dear Catherine,
This will go in your way, I'm sure. These people sound aggressive and using and really hitting on you for money.
Go back to NC, take several deep breathes and think about how aggressive YOU want to be; because you may have to do that, you know? Never nice but often necessary.
If not tell me and I'll send you my favorite cousin from Florida, who's very nice but very muscled.
Here all is well. My butterfly tree, which I was sure would not survive at this altitude has and is flowering like mad; the purple flowers are covered all day by butterflies of all colors.I watch them for hours at a time, beats doing the dishes.
And come whenever you want!
Yours, Cat
Dear Cat,
You must have read my mind... just came back today from "mediation court" with the awful Richard Morgan, owner of Posada Los Encuentros, and his even-worse girlfriend who both verbally attacked and threatened me right in the judicial's meeting room. And he's an American! This happened right after the alcoholic girlfriend said her speech about how he is a man "muy tranquillo" and both of us started to laugh. We couldn't help it!
He is known all over town for being "un hombre muy malo" (a very bad man) with a terrible temper. Everyone has seen it as Mr. Morgan can't control himself. Especially when there's drinking involved (which seems to be quite frequent these days). They blew up in front of the mediation judge, and the moment she left the room went after me, raising fists and threatening words. I am very traumatized right now, but the young woman who went with me to translate (it's all in Spanish) told me not to worry about it, since no agreement was reached we will file in the main courthouse. The mediation judge said the same thing. After 2.5 years of tranquility and safety, I now have enemies and threats against me. All because I paid in advance. When will I ever learn?
This man is absolutely crazy. Just like my father, so it is doubly - or triply- (word) traumatizing. Thanks for writing. I've given up all ideas of building a house right now, but I hope when I get back my energy will return. I leave for the U.S. for one or two months to sell the rest of my personal property and come back here to "live." But starting off like this isn't so great, is it?
I will go to the "big court" and stand up for myself no matter what. Plus I can sue him in the states (which I will), since he says "he never signed anything" and the emails he sent me aren't valid here in Guatemala. He set me up from the beginning! What a rat. Does he really think he can get away with stealing money from me and there will be no consequences? I guess abusers never learn, do they? He beat his wife and she left him and divorced him, and now he starts in on me. He's like a barking dog baring his teeth going after everyone, a "barking dog on a chain." That's how the judicial office people described him after the hearing was over. They told me not to be afraid of him, and tomorrow I go to the police station to take out a restraining order against him. When will this all ever end? Who knows, but I will take all necessary steps to protect myself.
It doesn't look like he's learned anything at all, but the strange thing is I still feel sorry for him. I always did, even as I avoided him as much as possible. There seems to be some kind of spark that says he "wants to do well," but he is so conflicted and confused he's like a puppet on a string of his own emotions. Then add in "liar and cheat." Not a good combination. Threatening me isn't going to change his life except for the worst. His own anger will destroy him in the end, not me. So, these are his consequences, as my feeling sorry for him is not enough to let him keep $1,500.00 of my money, not enough to let him keep attacking me, but he seems to be such an angry unhappy person and everything is failing around him. It reminds me of a statement I read that "every attack is a cry for help" by one of the Course of Miracles people, I think it was... but he needs to find the Red Cross or the Coast Guard to come to his rescue, not me. No matter how much I wish I could help him, I am too traumatized by his behavior to be of any use to him. Except for money, and that's out. I have my own post-traumatic stress to bear. Oh, yes.
Richard Morgan apparently has no thought as to consequences of his actions, and by attacking me he is really only attacking himself. If only I could see that at "the time of action," when it is all being directed at me. He (and his awful girlfriend Natalie) are like dark thunderclouds wherever they go, and his hotel is a "castle of conflict and confusion." It is bound to fail as it already is. They move about town and smile occasionally and say "hi," but anyone that really knows them stays far away. I guess I'll be joining that club.
But I feel sorry for someone who is so blind to their own actions, and is completely controlled by their own anger. No good can come of it, and in the end, he (and she) are the ones that suffer the most. But I won't let them make me suffer anymore. Oh, No. Those days are over!
I will take care of myself, no matter how afraid I am to do so. If I have to, I will hire a bodyguard to go with me to court as well, and a video camera to film it all. Along with my lawyer and translator. God does provide us oftentimes with what we need (not all the time, but most of the time nowadays, anyway). I am a grown woman and this childhood fear and post-traumatic stress has got to end. NOW. Just because my father could beat us "at will" and we had no protection, the laws have changed both here and in Guatemala. Wonders of wonders!
People can't hurt others just because they feel like it anymore! Just because they can't or won't control themselves. Can you imagine? Raised fists don't cut it anymore. I guess the world really is changing around me, and I can - I hope - let go of my fear and see those brilliant changes around me, shining like newborn stars. I will pray and pray and ask God for guidance and for the strength and the will to learn to FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE in the MIDST of the negative. The Devil is always waiting on one's shoulder or just around the corner, but God always sends many angels, in and out of disguise. Right? Right.
Thanks so much for writing and sending green building info, and reminding me of the beautiful butterflies happily sipping nectar on a butterfly bush. It reminds me of what I am supposed to be focusing on NOW! I really need that now. Wish I were THERE, in my beloved France, looking at your volcanoes, RIGHT NOW! :) smile!
Yours, Catherine
P.S. I could use your cousin in Florida right now! LOL
I'm listening to the most beautiful, incredible music right now: Shira Kammen, "Music of Waters" on magnatune.com. You can listen to the whole album there, and download if you like. This is ethnic/celtic music like I've never heard before. Fantastic. Then listen to John Fleagle, medieval musician that Shira Kammen played with. Gorgeous in it's simplicity and beauty. magnatune.com/artists/albums/fleagle-bliss/hifi_play
Your environmental eco-build online magazine link is GREAT, I expect to use a lot of their ideas! I've already subscribed: E Magazine, emagazine.com/index.php
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Ding Dong the Witch is Dead!
First night and first morning arising in my new apartment on Calle de los Tigres, in Panajachel, with a gorgeous volcano view. The Tigers will Protect me. Peace and Quiet and Inspiration Abounds!
Thank God I was able to find the grace and the strength to leave that soul-sapping "castle of conflict and confusion" that is called Posada Los Encuentros. I was surrounded by Devils and now I am free. I was only there for a little over one month, but it felt like a year. Make that YEARS. Like being in a prison camp waiting to find a way out. NOTHING in the world could be worth staying where one is not wanted, disliked, where one is being ripped off, ignored, damaged and destroyed by deceitful vengeful greedy individuals. This has NEVER happened to me in how many years? I can hardly remember. I have been in shock the whole time, as I haven't been treated like this since I was a child. Talk about ongoing trauma! But I hope it has helped me to see that damaged individuals can only damage others in return. All that is needed is to move away. Vote with one's feet. I am (luckily) not living in a dictatorship so I am fee to come and go as I please. It's up to me, my decision and my pocketbook. I decided no amount of money is worth giving up my emotional health and mental sanity. So. There. I AM GONE. I AM FREE! It's. All. Over. Now. Including. The. Silent. Shouting!
The spell is broken! All it took was being willing to "let go" of six months rent paid in advance (around $2,000) and being willing to go to court if I have to, to get it back. I've already talked to my lawyer and she is prepared to write a letter and file for me. Plus missing three other places, within ten to thirty minutes each, which is very unusual for me. Each week I would start another search. Finally I realized that no matter "how quiet I was, or how much I tried to comply and do nothing, say nothing, be invisible," nothing there was going to change. Just like growing up at home or living in NC in the negative space I was in. That's when I realized I was doing a "repeat performance" of "hoping things would change." Well, they didn't at Los Encuentros, they just got worse until I was in physical and mental and emotional danger. So finally I was ready to go to a hotel, and God saw fit to show me this last apartment which is perfect for now. I can't tell you the overwhelming loneliness I felt when first moving in, over the last three days, but thank God I was able to stick it out and now, freedom and bliss, all is well.
I got involved at Los Encuentros thinking "all my problems would be solved" and yet I had fear involved. Fear of the future, fear of buying the lots, fear of building. I thought L.E. would be able to help with all that, but instead they fed off all that. I hope I have learned some kind of lesson. What, I don't know, as most people in my life are positive influences. I guess all I can do is be prepared for those few negative ones that come along, and don't get involved financially with them, or at least for as little as possible. I hope - hope - hope I have learned my lesson now! And thank you thank you thank you for giving me the strength to leave. That's all it took. To "vote with my feet" and get up and go. Amen. Now it's just left for me to write the email to Richard requesting a refund, and list all the reasons why. I'll do that later when my strength returns.
No amount of money can be worth losing one' spiritual freedom (i.e. strength, courage, inspiration and joy), so I will have to look into the Wicked Witch and her Monkey Minions, as that is surely where I was living. The hotel part there is quite different, since people are only there for a few days. But stay a little bit longer, and Richard, Christian & Don Juan will begin "cooking your bones."
I have escaped with my life and NEVER ever will go back there again. Posada Los Encuentros is a firepit from hell. Every other day was another torture, and one never knew from what angle it would come. Just like growing up at "home." No wonder his wife left him!
But the best part is after considerable prayers and trying to live in freedom in my mind, the angels must have been looking out for me: I was able to find this beautiful larger place, and I can move back to my "real home" in Sid's place which is HUGE right near my lots on July 1st! This is the best news yet!
I can't wait; I can start drafting and building up a storm and hopefully help with the Pura Vida Recycling Program and build with the "ecobricks" (ecodrillos) technique they are using! I CAN'T WAIT!
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